An Affair ...

My brother-in-law is having an affair!

It's hard to focus. We had our fears because he was acting so strange but he denied it being another woman until the proof was brought to the forefront. I have no respect for him anymore. I am sick to my stomach with just an ache for my sister and what she must be going through. I want to string him up by his balls because he's not a real man, a real man wouldn't cheat on his wife of 10 years! It's hard to believe that this is happening to my family.

It feels like it must be a movie. He hasn't even made a decision to leave "the other woman" yet! My sister needs to drop him like a bad habit. She needs to leave him out on his butt. I can't even look at him. I don't know that I even want the restoration of this marriage. How can she ever touch him again!? How can I ever look at him again?! It makes me sick. He makes me sick.

The worst part is, even after the truth has been brought out, he is having a hard time letting go of a woman who is single, has a kid, is not a christian, yet he can tell my sister that he has every right to divorce her because she deceived him, she said she would try to be the Proverbs 31 woman and she's not! What a jerk! How dare he talk about virtue and deception when all along he has been doing it!

This has gone on a while. Even to the point of him wanting to marry "the other woman"! My poor neice and nephew. To have a father like that. And to think he even go them involved... He took them to the beach, wouldn't let my sister go because he "just wanted to spend time with *his* kids" without her! And to find out it was just because he wanted his kids to meet "the other woman" and spend time with her kid! And even worse, if that wasn't low enough... He tells his kids "don't tell mommy, she's really depressed and this would make her more sad". What an @$$#@!%! I'm refraining from saying all the horrible profanities I want to say.

This has just been told to me on Sunday. I don't know how to go on. I don't know how I'll ever be able to respect him again! My sister wants the marriage to work. She wants restoration. Don't ask me why! Well ok I know why... But he has no remorse for his actions! He is still defensive! He is not humbled at all! He needs to get to the point where he realizes that my sister was the best thing he ever had and that he will have to kiss her feet for the rest of her life because she was willing to put up with him after ALL THIS! But no, I think he still doesn't love her the way she deserves. I want her to kick him out. I want him to feel low! I want him to get to the pit of nothingness and realize what an ass he was to do that to my sister! I want him to come crawling back. If he's not on his hands and knees then she shouldn't accept him into her home.

I'm sad.