Me & The Drummer

The Drummer - The picture to the left is me and The Drummer Friday night. Every time I see this picture it makes my heart flutter. Ugh! What am I gonna do? I spent the night at his house that night. You know where that led. I'm so confused and unsure about how I feel about all this.

The picture was taken at the tail end of the night at one of his shows. I'd barely talked to him that night. I didn't expect anything. I was quite surprised he kissed me. In fact, someone was bugging him to take a picture of me and him and it was during that, that he leaned down and just kissed me until they took the picture. A random stranger came up to me shortly after that and asked if he was my man and I hesitated because I didn't know how to respond. The Singer and others were watching this take place and the Singer said "yes" to the lady who asked just as I said "um, no. I wish he was!" The Drummer then said "oh knock that shit off" and I was confused by what he meant. Did he mean stop that I wanted him or that I didn't know if he was "my man"? The whole thing left me confused but I didn't honestly think much about it. (The lady that asked the question said if he wasn't my man I should definitely try to make him my man because he was one fine looking man. haha)

I have been distant from him since maybe Thanksgiving because I knew he was hoping things would work out with the other girl and he was very unresponsive when I would text and ask how he was doing. I honestly thought they must have gotten together. I hadn't been able to talk to him about what happend on Thanksgiving when he went down to visit.

The night was a bit of a blur. I had the Singer flirting with me. There was a girl I met, a friend of The Drummer's, who was absolutely beautiful! I thought for sure she and The Drummer had to have hooked up. She kept asking if I was involved with any of the band members and I said no. This was before the kiss with The Drummer. She went after the Singer. He thought she was a bitch and asked me why she was being so crazy with him. I told him she was interested and before you know it they were making out! lol I couldn't help but laugh. Either way The Singer still thought she was psycho but went home with her. I had driven her down to the show so she said she was driving back with him and The Drummer. So when we were saying out goodbyes I hugged The Drummer goodbye he seemed confused and asked if I was driving home alone or if he was going with me. I wasn't sure how this all seemed worked out and I wasn't made aware of it but I, of course, welcomed him to come with me.

We talked on the way back about random nothingness. Mostly about how messed up people get and become the problem rather then the solution. I did find out the other girl has pretty much made it seem like she didn't want any kind of relationship. She still talks to him but that it's pretty much over. He mentioned the new girl I met that went with The Singer was the first bi-polar woman he wasn't attracted to. I told him I was shocked because I thought she was such a cool person and totally beautiful. He responded that it takes more then looks to make him attracted to someone. We were almost back to the Bassists house to where his car was when he offered for me to come over to his place. He added that he would be good. I teased and said, what if I don't want you to be good? He said, no matter what happened, he would be good to me. I knew what that meant and it was pretty much decided I'd spend the night.

I'm still kind of surprised by this though. I mean earlier that night I wasn't sure what was going on between us. He seemed to pull away and I knew it was for the best so I didn't push to keep communication open.

So we climb into bed. We're just cuddling at first. We talk about this and that and he started running his fingers through my hair and asks what I'm thinking about. I told him honestly that I was afraid I was being foolish by being in bed with him and he never really addressed that. He said he was thinking he didn't have too much to drink, meaning the sex would be good. It didn't take long for us to be going at it hot and heavy. We didn't go as long as usual. He had to be up at 6am for work and it was 3am!

We slept, at some point he pulled me close and intertwined with me. When it was time to get up, he told me to stay sleeping as long as I wanted and leave whenever. I took him up on that offer and happened to look up when he was rummaging through some pant pockets and realized how fucking hot he really is, even in his grungy work clothes. I couldn't believe someone so unbelievably sexy would like someone who didn't have a perfect body. I burried my head in the pillow and tried to shake the thought and he came and went out of the room while he got ready. At one point I heard the front door open and shut and then shortly after open again and he came back into the room and kissed me on the cheek. And I was pleasantly surprised to realize that was the only reason he came back in. As soon as I was sure he was gone I said aloud, Oh shit... I'm screwed.

Since that moment I haven't been able to stop thinking about him. I'm uncertain of my feelings. Even uncertain of his feelings. I know he cares for me but what is he thinking "this" is?! I haven't had the guts to ask him yet. He worked all day Saturday and we text a bit about how he was holding up but I didn't want to pester so I didn't text very much. Today I realized I've fallen. That there is no way I can keep this going without my heart getting hurt. I have thought of ways to ask him what's going on but my decision was to keep my distance. No need to freak him out by telling him I've fallen for him.

So I've kept looking at the picture above every chance I get. I sent him the picture to his cell but I never got a reply so I'm not sure if he gets pics. I think I vaguely remember him saying he couldn't wait to get an upgraded cell that would accept pics.

I'm not sure how I feel. He called me tonight after work. My heart skipped a beat. He was telling me how he survived at work and that The Singer was anxious to see the pics I took that night. I told him I had to deal with the paying gigs pics before I went through their show pics. He totally understood. He knew I was heading to a church Christmas party so we didn't talk long.

(sigh) I'm screwed.

And The Drummer's agreed to go with me to my old works reunion dinner. My old work that the Ex and I worked and got together at. Apparently my Ex is going to be there with his wife and I realized that though I may be cool seeing them and meeting her for the first time, I'm just not sure if I am ready to do it alone. I had asked him earlier in the week and he totally understood the reasoning without me needing to explain it. He said he cleaned up nicely and would gladly go with me if he didn't have to work. I'm not sure if he will go with me, and before Friday I wasn't sure if I wanted anyone to go, that I may want to face it alone. I know I'd have fun and I feel really good about myself. I can't imagine it being too hard. But I'll be curious if The Drummer does end up going as my date how it would go... We'll see.

Anyways, I have yet another new guy to add to my list but it's super late and I really need to get to bed. His nickname will be "African" because he's originally from Africa.